Tonight is our last night staying in the East Norwich Inn.
Sydney and I flew permanently to New York on July 31. On August 9th I signed a contract to purchase a house. It wasn’t until today, 88 days after the contract was signed and 97 days after moving to New York, that we closed on that house.
In the interim, we have stayed at the East Norwich Inn. It is nothing fancy, with its main claim being it was owned at one time by songwriter Burt Bacharach. But it has served its purpose while we wait for the house buying system in New York to run its course.
I have been criticized by some parties for keeping Sydney in a hotel for so long. I find this criticism appalling, for the obvious reasons that I didn’t ask for this move and have been trying my best to purchase and move into a house. More importantly, I believe our entire divorce case affirmed Sydney should have two parents actively involved in her life; my participation as Sydney’s dad vastly outweighs any concerns about staying in temporary lodging.
But there is more to it than that. Think about the incredible fortune I have to be able to move my job with me to New York, afford a hotel for almost three months, and purchase a home in a very expensive location. I am grateful for the ability to remain present in Sydney’s life; some dads would not have been able to do so under the same circumstances.
Most importantly, Sydney not only survives but thrives wherever she lives. She loves staying in the hotel and is sad we are departing. On the surface, she loves the breakfast buffet each morning, loves the ability to walk around and see other people, and seems to have no concerns about having the vast majority of her toys and clothes in storage. We have both been living out of one carryon bag each for the past three months.
On a deeper level, I think Sydney and I both actually enjoy the bonding of being in one room together – a far cry from my four-bedroom townhouse in Boulder. It really shows that what is important to kids is not what material goods, fancy lodging, or expensive vacations we can shower on them but what love we can provide on a daily basis.